My Grandmother

 

By: Veronica Bakut

In Nigerian society, the family structure is deeply rooted in respect for elders and strong cultural values. A typical Nigerian family often comprises the father, mother, children, and grandparents. Grandmothers, in particular, play a vital role in shaping the character and future of children through storytelling and life lessons. Fortunate are those who have the opportunity to experience the love and wisdom of a grandmother.

My Grandmother, Mrs Lami Niyu

My grandmother, Mrs Lami Niyu, is the pillar of our family. Just like the typical Nigerian grandmother who binds the family together, she carries the responsibility of nurturing and guiding us with a beautiful smile on her face. Her strength, resilience, and wisdom are unmatched. Despite the burdens she bears, she never fails to radiate warmth and love to everyone around her.

In our local community in Taraba State, my grandmother is known for her kindness and wisdom. She often tells us folktales from the Kwararafa Kingdom, stories that teach us about bravery, unity, and respect for others. These stories are not mere entertainment; they are filled with moral lessons that have guided me in making the right choices in life.

Her Influence on My Life

My grandmother is now 70 years old, yet she remains the backbone of our family. She has played a significant role in my academic success and personal development. Just like many Nigerian grandmothers who serve as second mothers to their grandchildren, she raised me when my parents were away for work.

I remember how she would wake me up at dawn to prepare for school, reminding me that "education is the key to success," a popular saying in Nigerian households. She would assist me with my homework, especially in Mathematics and Science, despite not having formal education herself. Her patience and dedication helped me excel in my studies.

Her life experiences have taught me the value of hard work, humility, and respect for elders. I have also learned the importance of community service from her, as she is actively involved in local women’s groups and church activities, just like many elderly women in Nigeria who contribute to the development of their communities.

Her Role in Our Family

We are a large family of ten members, and my grandmother ensures that peace and unity prevail in the household. She is the peacemaker, always settling disputes and advising family members on the right path. Just like the typical African matriarch, she still treats my father and his siblings as her little children, showing them love and care.

Her storytelling sessions at night are moments I cherish the most. From tales of the legendary Queen Amina of Zazzau to stories about our ancestors' struggles and victories, my grandmother passes down history and culture from one generation to another. These stories have helped me understand my roots and identity as an African child.

A Source of Strength and Inspiration

Despite her age, my grandmother remains active and dedicated to her duties. She wakes up early to prepare traditional meals like tuwo and miyan kuka, ensuring everyone is well-fed. She also participates in community events, such as women’s cooperative meetings and traditional festivals.

Her strength and resilience remind me of the legendary women in Nigerian history, such as Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti and Margaret Ekpo, who fought for the rights of women and the development of society.

Grandmothers are indeed a blessing to every family. In Nigerian culture, they are the custodians of tradition, wisdom, and morality. My grandmother, Mrs Lami Niyu, is not only the heart of our family but also the foundation of my success. Her teachings have shaped me into a responsible and respectful individual.

In a society where modernisation is gradually eroding traditional values, the role of grandmothers in preserving cultural heritage and instilling discipline in the younger generation cannot be underestimated. I am truly blessed to have her as my grandmother.